I Just Recently Stopped Using Drugs. Can I Make Friends Who Don’t Use?
Question by Jackson: I just recently stopped using drugs. Can I make friends who don’t use?
I just quit using drugs, specifically painkillers, which just about ruined my life. When I realized I was addicted… I knew I had messed up… and I knew the only way out was just torturous. I had the impression it would be like 2 weeks long, but it turns out it ended up only being a few days. At any rate, never, EVER want to go there again.
I started out just smoking pot, and in fact a lot of my friends ALSO just smoke pot, and didn’t know I was addicted to the other stuff. Anyway, after going through this… I have decided it might be better for me to just stay clean from it. I don’t know, I like weed … in fact, I actually advocate it for people who use it the way it was intended to be used — medicinally — but I still have my concerns about being with these people. They are good friends, it’s just the environment seems to create temptation for me.
Like I said, they are good friends but I have a feeling one of them is especially going down a very very bad path. I like him a lot, but he’s really stubborn and doesn’t listen. I’ve done cocaine with him a few times, but he seems to do it everyday. He’s broke, like 500 dollars negative last I heard, and he’s “getting in” with the dealer.. running him on errands and whatnot, I guess in exchange for the stuff. Idk. Tonight I did it by myself, and the comedowns were horrible. Granted, I’ve been clean from opiates for a couple of days now and I guess I’m still pretty weird chemically after not being sick from it for a few days.
Anyway, I’m about to start college. I want to make new friends, and maybe even start veering away from the existing friends… without like completely abandoning them or betraying them, because I do care about them… they are my friends. How would I make new friends in college, preferably classier friends who don’t use drugs, without seeming like a pr*ck or a p*ssy. I want to be sober… get a girlfriend… but all I ever hear about college is partying. Alcohol, and whatever else. Not that I’m against ANY of it or ANYBODY who can use it without abusing it.
I have the addict “disease” and I think it’s probably best for me to completely sober up. My parents (thank God for they have saved my life) have also arranged for me to attend at least 1 week of IOP meetings… what should I expect?
sorry I know I asked a lot of questions… answer whichever ones you can!! thank you and God bless
PS — if you’re addicted, my advice is to wean down. Don’t jump off at extremely high dosages because I THINK (but I’m not sure) you can die doing that… I’ve heard that the will to get clean has to come from the individual, which is definitely true — I wanted to stop but I couldn’t stop myself — but the turning point for me came when I turned to the most powerful and important Support Group there is: my Family, and God. I couldn’t have done it without any of them.
Best answer:
Answer by Deftones
dont force your beliefs on others…or your just like everyother religion
Answer by T
I bet you had nothing else in common with them other than drugs. Real friends should have similar interests..but not like that.
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