LGBT My Girlfriend Has Drug Problems?
Question by Funkytortoise: LGBT my girlfriend has drug problems?
Hey, I’m 18 and a lesbian, and my girlfriend is 16. I know a lot of people think that the LGBT community is more prone to do drugs. At first it offended me that stuff like that is said, but I’m starting to believe it’s true. Plus, my girlfriend is a big drug user. She smokes weed, drinks, and she does pills. She’s also done other things. She does weed and drinks the most, though. It’s really starting to annoy me. She was out of town for three weeks at a sports camp, and she went all that time without doing anything crazy. I know if she could go that long without doing drugs, then she doesn’t NEED drugs like she claims she does. I’m okay with her drinking every once in a while- like once or twice a month. And smoking too. But she does it several times a week. She’s also starting to get into pills and it scares me. I love her so much. We’ve been together for six months. She’s amazing when she’s sober, but I don’t like how she acts when she’s high. She just acts really chill and inhumane. I’m at the point where I’m ready to tell her to choose me or the drugs because I can’t do this anymore. It breaks my heart and it will break hers, too. I’ve tried multiple times to talk to her about ways to get off drugs, alternatives, but it never works. She always complains about her “addictions” but she never turns her words to actions. And now I KNOWWW she doesn’t need drugs since she went three weeks without them. Is it too harsh to make her choose? This is really affecting my health though. It depresses me and I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions?
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Answer by Kate D
Sadly, I don’t think there’s much you can do for her if she’s not willing to take steps to overcome her addictions. You’ve already done all you can by refusing to enable her and urging her to get clean. If she doesn’t respect you or herself enough to give up drugs for good, then there’s no way you can have a healthy relationship with her. Give her the ultimatum you described — and if she chooses drugs over you, break it up with her, give yourself time to heal from the breakup, get counseling if you need it, and date other women until you find your true Ms. Right! You owe that to yourself!
Answer by The White Queen
It’s not too harsh to make her choose. You’re just as much a part of the relationship as she is, and if you’re not happy about the way things are going she should listen to it. If she is reluctant to act upon it, it might be best to present her the choice.
As for LGBT being more prone to use drugs, I think it’s possible. Considering the social hardships a lot of LGBT have to endure, it’s only understandible they resort to other means. LGBT are also more prone to commit suicide, so it makes sense. If it really is true, I don’t know.
Good luck!
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